Needing some guidance... 5

[LITB]

I wanted to reply to your post from bustingout’s thread on yours.

LITB, I really, really needed to read these two posts you shared today. Wow. I have been so frustrated with myself these last couple days because I keep letting H, OW and their actions affect me.

I need to get out of the way and let it run its course. It sounds so easy. But it is THE hardest thing to master.

Yeah, it sukks, it hurts and it is the hardest thing to deal with.

You are a very intelligent and articulate woman. You know what needs to be done and you know when you focus on certain things they hurt.

It is like sitting next to the fire place, being mesmerized by the flames and knowing that putting your hand in the fire is going to hurt. It brings you unwanted pain.

You know to walk away from the fireplace, look out the window and enjoy the beauty that lies outside in this big world. It is inviting. You go outside and begin to live your life (GAL) as those flames in the fireplace become ashes.

You will be having so much fun and enjoying your life that the fireplace will be far away from your mind. It is empowering to feel that freedom.

I have no doubt that you will get there.

NOTE: When thoughts of your H and OW begin to creep in your head, picture a huge stop sign or one of us with a 2x4. Then try to put your focus elsewhere. It will become easier over time.

It is work no matter what you do. You might as well make the best of it.

I love that you continue to come back to the boards to give advice and guidance to others who are still trying to find their way. It shows a great deal of character from you.

Thank you for your kind words jks. I am glad to help.