I will stop posting if you don't feel like my advice is wanted. I know we aren't in the exact same situation but I have so much hope for you and I feel like you're doing so well with everything except for this one thing.
We're actually in the same boat, in a way. Because I have this ONE THING that I just can't get over and keep struggling with myself. (catching H with OW when he tells me he wants to be done with her, and confronting him about it and getting extremely angry at him) I recognize it and keep starting over and I'm continually trying to find ways to avoid it from happening in the future.
Both of our answers, I believe, is to detach. Both of our spouses would recognize the loss that they are having to face and they would have to step up to the plate and take action... one way or the other. Right now, we're both just waiting in the sidelines for them to make a decision but how is that fair?
It's not.
I feel like I'm worth more than this. And you are too.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
