I just finished reading the rest of your locked thread as well as this one and I have to say... You have Starsky and trust me, you need to listen to him, and truly comprehend what he is saying to you. I wouldn't be where I am today, if it wasn't for him.
If she wants a bluetooth, then it is her responsibility to get herself one, not yours. Stop coddling her in the hopes that this will make her return. If you want, do your dishes and leave hers sitting there. She started the D proceeding, therefore it is time to protect yourself, and start living for you. Do your own wash, do your own dishes, do your own cooking etc... Let her see just what it is going to be like to not have you sitting there at home waiting for her return, and then being at her beck and call once she actually decides to walk through the door.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
