If She Won't Stop the Affair?

[wont_stop]

Well, I'm back from the trip. It was so difficult, as she was texting and calling him all week. I spent the whole week trying to 180 her and ignore her actions. I kept messing up, asking about our future, getting her a book, getting depresssed and giving her the silence treatment. But, I did not lose my temper and I did a good job much of the time.

Starsky309, you are correct on the type of person I am the pleaser type of person. I always go out of the way to try and make it better for my family. I always thought that was how to show your love, but it doesn't seem to matter to her. I just wanted us to be happy, but I guess I did it wrong. The kids are 8 and 12, and they don't know about this. I'm trying my best to keep them unaware, but my 12 year old is pretty smart and may be aware something is going on.

Tonight I blew it though. She came home late after going to walk and I accused her of calling him. She got mad at me, but I backed off immediately and at least got into a normal conversation with her, laughing and talking about good stuff. Still, I lost a lot of work losing it like that.

I was able to get the DR book over the weekend, when I could get to a bookstore. I'm reading through the infidelity section, as well as the rest of it. I'm thinking of trying for six months to see if I can save our marriage before trying the silent treatment. I don't know if I can do it, but I can try.

Thanks for all the support.


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Me: 42 H: 46
Married 14 years
2 kids 8,12
Still together with WW, hoping for R