hi bug, not yet. it's this saturday. h had the boat for the 4th and the weekend that followed. funny, he has kept in contact with me daily via text, calls, or email. however, when he took the boat for the 4th and the days that followed, i had absolutley no contact from him.
it's as if he dropped off the face of the earth. he's told me before that he didn't want to hurt my feelings by not having me along with him so maybe that's what was going on in his head? i don't know but i can only control me so i'm trying to always think of ways to keep my spirits up.
he's back at work today and first thing this morning, the texts start! WAS's are such a mystery. i am polite and upbeat. it's all i have control over.
he's coming over to mow the grass this afternoon and bring the boat back so we can leave from here on saturday. he's having dinner with me (i offered to make him a tuna noodle casserole) and said that he's made an appointment with my IC! she's solution based and i just love her. she requested that he see her, too, and i told him about it about 10 days ago and gave him her card. i'm feeling good about him seeing her because she does not feel victimizing and demonizing is the way to help marriages. she believes that, there's a problem and now, what are we going to do to solve it!
all in all, i think things are positive but that's also how i choose to see them.
thanks for dropping by! i love to follow your posts to others!
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
Yes, Brit. I think it's really good. It's especially good since he's been seeing his own IC but has now agreed to see mine. His IC told him that people change because they need something and it doesn't always last. Well, I'm sure that gave H more of what he's afraid of!
My IC is much more positive. I thInk he could use more positive influence. I'm sure friends and family are advising to move on as they will when only hearing from one spouse. Mine do. ;-)
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
Need help. H just showed up, all sun tanned. It's hard for me not to take a butcher knife to him. I had to lock all the doors of the SUV we use to tow the boat so he had a car load of people in it to take boating. What fun they all had while I sat in this damn house in BFE with no one.
I feel like sh!t. I don't want to cry or be upset around him. He's mowing the lawn and will come in for dinner when he's finished.
How can I turn my mind around? I just feel so uncared for.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
The SUV doors are never unlock except for the driver's door so I know he had at least three others in the vehicle.
It's just that I spent the last five days totally alone. It was another holiday in this town where I know no one but his friends and family. All cut off from me now.
I don't know, bug...how can they be so heartless? I could never do that to someone ( of course not! I'm co-dependent!)
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
I haven't followed your sitch but I'm curious to know what are you GALs?? Consider these (you don't need someone else to do them) -weekly movie night, sit wherever you want and eat all the popcorn yourself!! -read a juicy book while you have a glass of wine (heard 50 shades of grey is good -make yourself a really good dinner at home and order that delicious dessert from a restaurant/bakery just for YOU! -order the sex n the city series. pretend your samantha and try to talk like her. she's so sexy -TAKE DANCE CLASSES!!! if my daughter didn't need me so much I would do salsa classes -volunteer at your church or children's hospital or other nonprofit. Let me know what you do!
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
