Needing some guidance... 5

[BFloat]

jks.... take a deep breath sweetheart!

i don't know your whole back story.. i will try to read it when i can.. i've only have the most recent updates.

i'm sorry you're hurting. it definitely isn't fun.

i think you've received some excellent advice from others about taking your time and trying not to place yourself in these situations that you know ultimately do not have a good outcome. walking into your in laws house may have delivered some satisfaction of calling him out on his actions but.. what else could have happen except for him telling you he's confused.. etc etc.

one of the things i learned in my situation was that i could not control or make any decisions for my H. even though i thought i knew what was best for us and for our family.. it was just that. my thoughts.. my beliefs. when i was able to accept that.. my focus shifted on making my own decisions and trying to come out of this with grace and dignity. who did i want to be? how did i want others to see me? did i want to be the sad martyr who gave us so much of herself to make him happy? poor me?? or did i want to be the woman who in the face of adversity did what she could to come out on the other side a better.. stronger.. happier person?

i'm not saying there's some easy magical cure. every now and then i have my struggles.. but ultimately.. i am ok.

turn the focus away from H and back on you. what H does.. you can not control. you only control your own actions..

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