Patience? Actually talking and listening to each other...I'm not entirely sure what has been done or has not been done.
She feels like the SSM book is an insult...
And then you went and are adding to your anger of not having sex by seeing how long it will be before she wants to have sex, not saying anything...Not letting her know.
That's...to me borderline passive aggresive.
While yes you have had these talks alot...nothing has changed, has your approach? She is very affectionate...are you? Are you affectionate without expecting sex to come from it?
A few months back, my wife made a disparaging comment about how I always want sex. I looked at her and said,
"I think you feel like I want sex everyday two to three times a day and that just isnt' true. I would like sex once or twice a week.
You have a lower sex drive and I have a higher one, neither one of us the bad guy here. Just different. To compromise I have learned not to expect it, or get upset or ask for it as much, but that is hard to see from anyone else's point of view as a compromise. It's not that I have lost interest. It defeats the compromise by pointing out that I'm not asking, because that in fact turns out that I am. It's almost a losing position."
I hope some of that might help XYZ.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
