God willing, we'll be closing on our house three weeks from today. I need to transfer several thousand from my emergency fund so I'll be able to write a check at closing. Need to see how long that'll take to do.
I've tried to make H take on the bulk of the HOA repairs and buyer requests since I'm working and feel that the house is being sold because of his actions, so he should have to do some of the work.
I'm tired of always being the super responsible one who takes care of everything. H was always upset that I wasn't more fun, so I'll let him see how much fun it is to do all of the chores.
I was impressed that he called me this am to update me on the status of some of the calls he's made. I guess my telling him that it all needed to be done in two weeks made him realize he needed to hurry up.
His job interview in NY isn't until the 20th, so no income coming in any time soon. At least that'll give him a few days with his son before work potentially starts and time to pack up all of his stuff.
There are tons of boxes in the garage that he packed up last June, but nothing from the house has been packed yet, so he'll be busy.
Right now his plan is to move in with one of his best female friends who got divorced last year. He won't be living with his best friend, so it'll be a little less like a frat house, so maybe this will be good for him.
It will put him about 20 miles away, where all of his new friends live, so I most likely won't see him much. If he wants to see me, he'll have to put forth the effort.
Either he'll discover that he wants to act like a 20 year old forever, or he'll decide to grow up. Either way, it'll be good for me to know.
I've had a lot of time to think about what I want in a marriage. Some of those things I didn't have with H. I wouldn't have broken up a marriage over it, but now that it's broken I wouldn't go back into it the same way.
So while I may not have detached, I have accepted that our M is over and if we do begin again, it will be as a completely new relationship.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
