Just got back from my trip, it was really nice. I am glad I went. I was a rated PG trip, but that was fine with me.
I took the W to Miami. Even though she grew up in FL, she had never been to Miami. She said she had a great time from the moment we arrived. We just relaxed and just took in South Beach.
Positives From The Trip: - She said she had a great time. - We talked a lot. She made it a point to list out all my good points and again say I have gotten into really good shape. - We made plans for another trip in a couple of months, just the two of us again. - We slept in the same bed together for the first time in months - This was our first trip just the two of us in over five years and it was great
Negatives From The Trip: - I did a mini-R talk on the last night. It sucked. It put her on edge, but it was quick and we recovered quickly. (Bad bad bad me) - She said her and OM are not 'off', but it isn't as fun as before.
This is going to be a long, long process and I believe I am ready for it. While it [censored] OM is around, I think my W is seeing the changes in me and comparing OM to me.
One of the major issues my W had with the M was we never did anything together. This trip was a good step.
It will be impossible for me to go dark, but what I can control is when I invite the W to do things. I will not do this in the future as much as I do now. I will let her be the one to invite me. Going to be tough, but I am going to try.
I need a veteran who has dealt with an OM/OW to give me advice. I know everyone says to stay away if there is an OM/OW, but I see significant progress since we have been hanging out.
Now that this trip is over, going to go back to my GAL activities. The past few weeks, my GAL has involved the W. Need to get back to ME time.
M-40 W-33 D3, D4, SD13 T 9 YEARS M 5 YEARS ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012
