I guess I should have been more clear. I want W to have friends. What I am deciding on is if I can tolerate this friendship. I will not tolerate her dating someone.

I left this out, but last night, I told her that I have two "conditions" on this arrangement right now. These are the boundaries I have set.

1. No dating.
2. No destructive drinking.

I do want out of this nightmare. I have just held on to the only way out being reconciliation for a long time. That's what has to change.

My name is Michael, I usually go by Mike.

I also added that there could be more if something comes up.

BITS
M: 35
W: 35
T14, M11
D9, S6
ILYBINILY: June 09
Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11
W came home: 3/17/11
EE: July 2012
Dropped the rope: Oct 2012
Piecing: April 2013
Not piecing: April 2014
Stuck.