I told her I think it was inappropriate. All I knew was that she was pissed off at me, told me she needed a break, and went and had dinner with some guy that she just met. That's all I knew and that's what I reacted to.
She then told me that I'm still trying to control her and tell her who she can and can't be friends with. I said this is the first person I've ever had a problem with you being friends with.
She doesn't understand how I can acknowledge our marriage is over and not be ok with her R with this guy. Even if they did have romantic intentions. She said she tried calling her 1 GF here in the area first and she didn't answer, so she called him. She sees him the same as she sees Ohio BFF. This great person that will never judge her on anything and help her through a tough time.
And now, all she sees is that I am selfishly taking that away from her because I don't want to deal with the pain that it causes me.
Navy,
You're still not understanding correctly the difference between "ultimatums" (controlling) and "boundaries" (healthy).
Let me see if I can find something in my notes that might help you. Be right back in a jiff . . .
