ok guys - was just poking and prodding a bit last night - wanted to get to what you two were really feeling within yourselves.
i can't say that dating is not acceptable during our sitches. i really don't know where i am at on that issue. i can't say that i wouldn't say yes if someone asked me out for a coffee, but i don't think myself that i'm ready for dinner!
what you both describe about your feelings - they sound really valid. if we are supposed to also view our future lives entirely without our h's it seems logical that we would at least dip our toes in the water to see what the alternatives are.
just wanted to make sure that your own states of mind were in a healthy place doing it. it's one thing to do it after detachment , another thing to do it as a reaction.
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
