Needing some guidance... 5

[reachingHigher]

jks, wow! How incredibly disheartening and painful. Had you ever seen OW face-to-face? What a letdown after feeling so much progress with H.

I read your post at 3 am and thought about it for a while to let it sink in. I think I've read here to not make decisions quickly based on volatile feelings. Who wouldn't have felt the (totally understandable) way you did though? But maybe let it cool off a little while before making a big decision?

My H always used to tell me, when I found out something and reacted strongly to it, that nothing has changed except I know about XYZ. IOW, it's not a new thing. You just saw it and were there. And painfully there.

Being an emotionally un-involved outsider, I actually liked that he is confused. He wants to still give you a chance. He wants someone else to tell him what to do, so he doesn't have to do it? Too painful for him?

How is he cake-eating? You aren't ML are you? It didn't sound like it. (not that I think anything is wrong with that, certainly)

jks, you have such a sweet spirit. You are obviously so mature for your age and have been through a lot. A lot! Maybe decide to put off this decision for a little while? At least until you hear what the counselor and H say.

The counselor thing is new, right? Maybe let it give it some time to work, like a medicine that gets in your system (or H's system). Give this new angle, with the counselor some time. After all, if he did choose to leave OW, it would be great for you in the long run.

I'll be thinking about you today. I'm familiar with emotional pain. I'm happy to say it's only a visitor now not a constant companion. But I know you are hurting today and I want you to get through it!!!!

Hugs to you today!!!!