Okay here's all the good stuff....he gave butterflies thinking about him after the first date, he's very good looking, he has the cutest accent, he was very complimentary and attentive, he's interesting, very travelled, close to his family, said he'd take a job with his company here if he met someone, but.......it was just two dates. I don't have a problem saying no. I have ended dates after an hour if i didn't like the guy. My time is valuable. Because we'd emailed on and off i did think it wiuld be nice to meet as friends. Unlike in the past I didn't self sabotage, I didn't jump in too quick, I enjoyed his company. I think it was a toe in the water. I don't really see a future for us. I'm not going to compromise any more when I meet a man. I think it had been a long long time since I'd sat across from someone at a nice dinner without anxiety (which is how all my post separation dates felt....but I kept running with those blinders on) and enjoyed conversation, flirting, holding hands.