sd - it's too obvious - the OM's ex? c'mon!! you don't really expect us to believe it's mere coincidence. get honest with yourself! i've been following your sitch, and i can't imagine that in just a few months you are so detached and distanced from all the hurt that your w caused you that this woman just happens to be around.
take care of yourself sd - tread carefully here. whether you've given up on your marriage or not, you mustn't give up on taking care of yourself. and taking care of yourself, means taking care of your feelings and working through them and doing the work. besides what is she upto? you are her ex's ow's h!! there's messed up here, and before you bite off more than you can chew, you need to inspect what's really going on here.
brit - here comes yours!! something in what you wrote is signaling to me that you are just going along with it - without much heart.
do you have trouble saying no? (like i used to?) it's an insidious underlying belief some of us have about ourselves - that we can't say no. - at least that's my latest new awareness (grin)
too many negatives in your description of the guy...
btw - both of you - you were commiserating with each other on some level. very telling!! not telling about your db'ing efforts, but telling about maybe the possibility that deep down you both know that this isn't completely right for either of you
ok - couldn't find the cotton wool, while i wrote that - but you know i love you guys anyway (clumsy attempt to soften the whacks!!)
hugs zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
