DB Bootcamp - zig and sgctxok, and various

[zig]

And I'm really happy to be a witness and we are blessed that you are posting here.

aw shucks sg, i think that we are all doing that.

i don't know what i'm doing - maybe i can't see as clearly as you guys are - but being called 'wonder woman" and 'rare' all in the same week..

wow - talk about having my tank filled - i'm practically preening here

oh and i guess i should add - that h - who was very worked up - on MY behalf today and went into full "i'm going to protect my family" mode - while he was going ballistic - blurted out something along the lines of "look at you - you've become this amazing super confident woman who has her [censored] completely together"

how's that for finding out that he's seeing something else. i can't say i didn't have a big fat cheesy grin on the other side of the phone!!

talk about wanting to "protect' me - he was all ready to go into full attack mode on my behalf and call this person and yell at them.

i fulfilled my new confident role, requested really calmly that i would like to deal with it first on my own, and if it didn't give a satisfactory result, then i would ask for his help. he replied that of course he wouldn't call unless i let him, but he was ready to do it right now.!!

i feel like i handled the whole thing really well with him - and i can't say i didn't take the opportunity to use what happened as a way to have a pretty connecting conversation with him. that is one subject that both of us have felt very strongly about for years.


challenging our beliefs about love and relationships and finding out what our partner really believes ... and how those two beliefs/perspectives DO NOT need to match to have a very happy relationship.


alright - so is this KLA a book, that i haven't heard about yet, or exercises or what? i need to get on this - mostly for myself

what you said resonates - and how you describe your r with your partner - puts a smile on my face. i am sooooo happy when i hear or read about successful r's - i'm so glad for you - and yes please, share all you like - i have a lot to learn.

i did bury my head in the sand - and now, when i realize the ways i did that in - i do NOT want to ever do that again - in any r, not just with h. now i want to inspect and challenge my own beliefs about what a r should be about - i feel that i am just getting to the point where i can explore that

thanks for the encouragement , sg -

also happy to say - that there have been what i think of as huge little shifts in my focus - in the last few days. i can feel things changing within me at the way i'm thinking about work more, the way i shift my thoughts when i start to think negatively into more positive ones, almost immediately and so feel that on a subtle level i have made a lot of progress within the area of "mind control"

the biggest progress i have made is in my PMA , i think and in detaching - not just from h but also from other things around me. i've also done much better in the way i'm handling subtle patterns within myself with s and with h - which has given me a boost of confidence.

so i am looking forward to the new week starting and really making progress

a sentence from my meditation tape:

Be eager about your life

thanks
zig