RT, you sir are a one of a kind. Sometimes I feel like I am talking to my more articulate and wise twin smile

As you are talking, I see a plan formulating and I see you with the resolve to stand with it. I applaud that.

When I ask the questions, they are totally for your benefit. Not to discourage you but to see where your head lies. To see what you are really about. I think I see some of that now. I admire it. And I know it's a long journey, but I highly suspect you'll be standing when the dust settles.

You are correct to think that act and the idiot are separate. In fact, sometimes we are our strongest when we feel our weakest and most powerless.

You have a solid lock on what's important. You know that what changed, can change again. You know what your contributions are. You know what you need to do.

The only thing you don't know, is how long you'll need to do it and what the final result will look like. But your in-laws know you are different. You know you are different. You W knows you are different. So do your kids. They all know you are strong and smart. They are obviously rooting for you which says a lot about you, really.

My ex in-laws did the same. My mil and fil no longer do, but I think they were in that camp of not wanting to see their daughter in pain. I think they also bought into the lies to some degree. The rest of her family and I still talk and visit. Don't tell her though wink

Pace yourself RT, but keep on the path you're on. You have a good grasp and a good perspective. Try not to be so hard on yourself about the in-laws. You did your best and when you explain it to them they'll understand.

Peace!

AJ


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK
Put the glass down...
"Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."