I greatly apologize for the time it has taken to approve your post, it is not a normal timemframe, we look for 24-48 hours.
I completely understand the need to suffocate or explode, and yet doing the opposite of suffocating is the right thing to do.
Of course, exploding, literally, won't help. But... venting for a time or intermittently ...does help somewhat.
I'm glad you've found DB/DR.
So let's start talking solutions.
38 years is a very long time....as you know...an amount of time most of our DBers would love to have. So in order to help....
What's going well NOW?
What USED TO go well?
(focus on the good)
and...
What happened? When did things turn? What are your husbands complaints? What .. if you know, or if you had to guess if you don't know...went wrong.
snow-
I'm so sorry for your grief. I'm so sorry you have this pain, that what you counted on isn't in place. I'm so very sorry we took so long to respond to you. This is my fault, as I was unable to respond during this period, but I will check in on you.
snow---this is a community that will be here for you. it's a community that is committed to marriage, to love, to helping you through the pain. It is also committed to helping you find a solution.
Again - I'm so sorry for your pain - dbmod/and the whole DB Team
