I forgot to mention. MIL called me when I was with H to tell me something personal. She then cried and said that she sees me as a close friend and I am the first and only person she would call about this. This is another 180. My relationship with his mom has improved a lot. Hence the example. I'm glad. I think what changed is that my expectations of her are now realistic.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017