Originally Posted By: zig
Hi sg - please please don't apologize for the delay. you have a life too, and i am just so grateful that you are even here, to help in any way.


What have you been doing this week to take care of yourself?


i don't feel very successful on any area this week. I am bummed to say that i am still not pushing enough with my personal goals.

there is so much continuous emotional upheaval and i know that i need to retrain my brain to stop and switch my focus to something else controlling your thoughts is a powerful skill

i did do quite a bit better on monday and tuesday, but wed and thursday were not so successful. so ffocuson what you did RIGHT on Monday and Tuesday

I know what i need to do in my mind, but seem to be having a very hard time actually doing it. can't figure out what is holding me back so much.
We ALL struggle with that, don't beat yourself up, be proud of every little bit of improvement...because that's how it builds. Focus on what you do right.
Michele says that figure out our own answers (and she provides DB tools to help).

i'm aware that i am feeling quite lost in terms of motivating myself and seeing what i should work towards in my personal goals. the work thing is really going slowly, and i am now becoming aware that even though i am very talented, my belief system about my skills and what i can achieve with them is sadly lacking in self-confidence. I can tell you that the folks that are looked at as gurus are very proud of what they do right. They don't do everything right (including me)...even Michele doesn't DO everything right. It's just much harder to move forward when you're beating yourself up. Plety of other folks are all to ready to do that for you, too. Congratulate yourself/celebrate your successes. And you know what...confidence is attractive.

where are these tools that michele speaks about?

all of the skills in DB/DR, KLA and The Marriage Breakthrough.

i think now, that when i am real turning the focus away from h, i am seeing so much within myself that i need to work on.

i shall try harder tomorrow to focus more clearly on what to do. my list of to do things has grown so long ... shorten it to 2-3 things. When they are done it will be easy to add other things.

thank you for your help
zig

sg
Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001