You are getting awesome advice from JKS, SS, ConfusedFather and Labug. Do NOT have a PA yourself unless you are done. At that point you should tell your W you are done and that you intend to date others.

Having a PA now will very seriously set you back. Get a massage if you need some contact.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015