I don't think I'm helping you. You avoid the hard questions with more of your own.
If you are "Clinging" to a vision of a sex life with your wife that is not possible, as you seem to suggest, repeatedly, b/c you have "tried everything" and you get annoyed when we suggest another option or behavioral approach or tactic or romantic idea...
then what's to say? "Good luck"?
If you dislike the idea of woman making love to her h b/c she loves him...and NOT because she desires him ---but your wife has made it clear she does NOT desire you in that way...
I suppose my answer to one of your many questions is YES I think you are being unrealistic at this point in time, after years of not making love, to assume it'll completely change, absent a miracle.
I know I'm not alone in agreeing to ml with my b/c I love him even though I'm not in the mood and even if I don't think I'll fully be satisfied in that "interlude"
b/c maybe my hormones are way off that morning, or maybe I'm preoccupied w/work, or maybe I'm in grief, but i want the closeness...perhaps even more then,
or maybe I just care about HIS needs...I would hope HE does not get bogged down by his need for MY needs to always be met...sheesh...
Stop deflecting from the question.
What is it you want to DO about your situation?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
