W, I love the sarcasm font! I am from New York and we know of sarcasm - I think we invented it - LOL!

Good on you for getting them out. I hear ya on the enabling thing. It's my middle name.

But you are right, they can get jobs and figure it out on their own. Heck, I worked three jobs when I needed to move out of my parents' house.

Really, the best thing for them is for you to step back and let them figure it out.

And keep setting boundaries. They get easier to enforce as time goes on.

Your son is old enough to start living his own life.

It's your time now, Wen. Take it.