I think you're right about ultimatums. I think I'll just stay with friendly but unattached. Right now, it feels like a corner has been turned. I don't particularly want to ring my wife for the first time in weeks. That worries me too, what if she feels the same? What if we end up just being two very stubborn people not communicating when (i think) we should be. That won't get us anywhere. I'll attempt to keep it up until I get back from canada and reassess then.
I have to admit that I am incredibly curious in a masochistic poking to see if it hurts, oh yes it still hurts kind of way as to what she is doing. I am forbidding myself from snooping though.
As you pointed out though it is very early in the process, although when I said that to my wife the shutters came down instantly. For her it isn't a process, it's a fact, she's done. As for reading other threads, I am doing it almost constantly. Litb's is particularly good.
