I just finished reading love must be tough. I'm afraid the christian side of the book didn't really appeal but there was a lot of other stuff in there which did make sense. Right now I'm still dark with my wife. Despite several serious temptations to get in touch I haven't rung, emailed or texted. I don't think I'll hear from her again until either I head to Canada (which I was going to tell her about) or she wants furniture for her flat. Firstly, if dark should I tell her about Canada at all? Secondly, in light of love must be tough if she contacts me before then what level of interaction should I go for? I'm certain an ultimatum, like D, such as suggested in the book will be reacted to negatively. However, I am reaching a stage whereby I am going to start standing up for myself. There were issues in our marriage, I have apologised and I am really working on myself. I have repeatedly held out the olive branch and she has chosen to wave it away every time, stating it's all about her and she's changed. I feel like I have to make some attempt to reclaim some respect back in our R. Any top tips? Thirdly, how helpful should I be in her move? My MC says to barely lift a finger it's hers to deal with. Does this fit in with DBing?
