had a long chat with mil this morning - they just got back from their trip yesterday.
found out that h gave up his rental when he bought his house. and was moving out end of july. then before their trip, came to them and said, i messed up because this house is not join got be ready before december
seems as if the current plan is that he is going to move in with in-laws. he is NOT happy about it at all. mil thinks he may be trying to see if he can get his rental back.
i'm surprised that he wouldn't just tell me, especially since we talk about the house frequently and also about how they will be living there come the autumn - in fact it just came up yesterday.
oh well -chalk that down to one more dissonant piece of this sitch!!
mil also told me that one of the couples they were with - many years ago - had the same thing. the h had mlc and she stood for 22 months, and now they are still together.
i asked if mil thought that she would talk to me and she said definitely. so she's going to ask her. i think it will be nice to talk to someone in person, who's been there and been through it - maybe she can tell me what helped her the most to get through it.
most of our conversation was about my growth and the new place i am in now. this wonderful woman has walked next to me and watched my pain all these months ( i have no idea what that did to her) and i really wanted her to know, that with her support i could be in this place and keep growing.
towards the end we talked about how this hasn't just affected me, but that my own growth has triggered so much growth and introspection in the people around me, especially her.so the gift one gives oneself - of allowing this for yourself - you land up giving it to everyone else too. how beautiful is that, when you didn't even intend it.
so interestingly - everyone in the family reported to her how amazing and beautiful i was at the b'day party . she said they all called one by one to tell her about it.
so life just goes on - and things fall into their place when they are meant to. mil and i are in a good place with each other and i feel really good about that. we are way more than dil and mil - we are really good friends and determined to keep it that way no matter where this goes.
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
