ur sitch is quite similar to mine (i suspect my H married me for the visa). Knowing/feeling that we were married for a reason other than love does take the fight out of us. I've been thinking about this a lot, and whatever the reason for the marriage, we need to fight for it as best as we can, because our kids deserve to be raised by both parents (hopefully in a loving home).

So, it's not over yet, keep fighting....because your son deserves that. and you need to know that you did the best you could. Focus on YOU, thats what is important now


Me 33, H 34
T 15 (on and off, 7 years this stretch)
M 4
DD 3
OW July 2010, IDLY - Oct 2010

1st sep 28/5/11-14/8/11 (my idea)
OW confirmed 25/11/11 (H travelled with OW 26/11/11)
I moved out 3/12/11