I'm having a hard time with these SSM low drive or low needs people that really think that they should not meet in the middle somewhere.
When the "discrepancy" is such that the LD person wants no sex, what does it mean to "meet in the middle"? Half of what the HD person claims he/she wants? In which case I think the HD person would tend to claim to want twice what they'd be happy with. And besides, it's kind of depressing that you've committed to having sex only with a person who never enjoys it. It's not easy.
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And to realize that the low SEX is just one symptom of a bad marriage.
I would disagree with the potentially implied statement that low sex only results from a bad marriage. LD can be the initial cause, and sometimes a couple can manage to hold everything else together pretty well even while the sexual discrepancy is not resolved.
I hear you. It could have been a "good" marriage and for one reason another the LD was brought on, but the rest of the factors remained the same. There wasn't anything done to cause the LD, but hormonal or psychological change is what brought it on. Nothing the HD wife or husband changed, is not doing, but instead it's the response of the LD partners mind and body.
I have a question. Would it be possible for you to please your mate in a particular way, knowing you will not recieve pleasure in the act? However to recieve fulfillment, ensuring your partners needs are met?
I also had a observation of LD in which "if you don't use it you lose it". So sometimes to gain it back, you have to do the act. Don't do it for yourself, don't do it until you feel a large ball of lust, but do it to pleasure the other person. As long as you are not degrading yourself, or mentally falling deeper in a LD pit then what is the problem?
