Mab1, I am where you are right now. I am not sure if the pain is worth it. But I have decided that my dignity and self-respect are two things that are important to me that she can't take away. However, they are mine to lose. I think what everyone has been trying to tell you (and me) is that the goal is to improve yourself, with your W coming back to the R as icing on the cake. But if she chooses not to, then you still win.
M-31, W32 S12, S9, S8, D3 M 12 Years Bomb dropped: 4/30/12 ("I need to be happy") EA discovered: 5/8/12 W denied PA unsure Moved out 7/6/12
