"You people don't know what it's like to live with someone who makes me feel like I'm nesting in a thorn bush."
REally? I think EVERYONE here knows what that's like. You like to think you're different or that your situation is unique, etc. But the fact is that it's much more common than you think.
IMHO you didn't mess up. You were with a woman who validated you and you stopped before you both did something you'd regret. BUT the most important lesson you've learned is that you are worth something. Even if your W has destroyed your ego, you do have self-worth. Now try doing that without a woman controlling you.
The OW was right about you letting your W lead you. In fact, you let the OW lead you around last night as well. How can YOU be someone who takes the lead?
MrBond, Great post! I know OW was validating me, and honestly I was really intrested in what & why her sitch came to an end as she noted to me that I was the same as her H. Not spending enough time emotionaly and the thought process that happened because of that. Still though her story I understand was her side of the three truth's and she stated that she told her H she was unhappy before deciding to leave. Which pisses me off why I didn't get that from my marriage. Communication-communication-communication Now, I know the five love languages, it doesn't help right now.
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
I've taken this test about 20 times and the second half is the hardest but the results are almost the same except for the acts of service and the physical touch seem to bounce around a bit. The questions I feel are more for new couples and not after a bomb drop.
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
I just remmembered that I've noticed for the last two days that the W, when talking about my MIL has started to use the phrase "MY mom" instead of the usual "mom" emphasizing the MY. Im courious what's the meaning of what W is thinking? I really don't want to think about it that much as that's not the right thing to do, but I'd like to know and say to myself "Ok, so what"
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
MrD, why do you want to drop your W from your health insurance? i'm a little confused and maybe your answer is in your thread somewhere so i apologize.
i know that my H's ins. has me and two of his kids on it. the premiums can be for one (himself), two (me and him), or more than two (the four of us). if he took me off, his premium would remain the same because he'd still have more than two.
it looks like you'd be in the same situation with a wife and two kids. will it reduce your premium if you take her off?
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
MrD, why do you want to drop your W from your health insurance? i'm a little confused and maybe your answer is in your thread somewhere so i apologize.
i know that my H's ins. has me and two of his kids on it. the premiums can be for one (himself), two (me and him), or more than two (the four of us). if he took me off, his premium would remain the same because he'd still have more than two.
it looks like you'd be in the same situation with a wife and two kids. will it reduce your premium if you take her off?
I'm more concerned about W consuming these not in network Dr visits that are not fully covered. I'd be liable for these costs, right?
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
About the new job-do they have a Human Resources dept? Talk to someone there. If not call an attorney.
And the OW-she's trolling Craigslist for sex. Is that the kind of R you want?
I thought about that, and that's not what I need or want. Just some company that won't tell me to leave what I've had for almost 25 years. My closest friends tell me to get a divorce and move on.
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
