Guys - I've got to the stage where if the W wants to leave - let her. I've just been to two wonderful happy people who are BOTH D'ed.

It's NOT something I want to do but ........

Gonna have to sleep on this. A least I can. House is quiet as no W :-(

Unless she's out talking things over with family.

BTW - been given the TOP divorce lawyer to contact who will literally WIPE the floor with the one my W is using. Big relief. And thank you guys for the pointer!!!!!