NOW I REALLY COULD USE A SUGGESTION OR TWO. (I don’t know if there’s any good ones though)

Accuray, I am glad you agree that I made the right moves on that one. Even though you didn’t initally get positive signs from your W at least you’re working on reconciliation, right? I really hope it’s going in the right direction for you. You obviously did something right and it’s very clear you’ve done soooo much to make things work. It’s very refreshing to know there’s others out there that truly want to repair their broken marriages.

I feel like you’ve taken me under your wing in a way and I want you to know that I am very grateful for that. I know there’s a lot of people on this board that have a lot of respect for you, me included. I know you don’t have the time to give input on everybody’s sitch and I am truly thankful for you deciding to contribute to my sitch. Hopefully you can tell that I am listening and trying to implement your advice.

Unfortunately a major change has happened since your post.

One term I hear on this forum from time to time is “backslide”. Today I found out that I will be taking my first backslide and it’s a MAJOR BACKSLIDE.

I had an old credit card that was neglected. Well, I just found out today that I will now be garnished for 3,900 until the bill’s paid off. The good news is it won’t stop me from paying my W the same amount I’ve been giving her every month. The bad news is my W has me email her a copy of my pay stubs because sometimes I get bonuses and my paychecks can very. It’s her way of making sure she’s getting the right amount because we agreed she would get part of any bonuses I receive.

Now that I am going to start getting garnished it will show up on my paystubs that I show my wife, just great!!!! Financial issues is one of the biggest 180’s I need to do. It’s a major pet peeve for W. According to W, financial irresponsibility is one of the factors that lead to our separation. Now this!!!! This DOES NOT HELP MATTERS. Things will not be looking good. I know it’s my fault but I just can’t believe it.