Jack, I have quoted you at least a half dozen times this week, "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B". How true that is. Just to add to my stress a month after we separated my job gave an ultimatum that to keep our jobs we were moving out of state. When the time came to decide i just was not in an emotional state where i could say i was willing to move. I felt if i had i would be giving up on DBing and thus giving up on any hope of reconcilliation. So, Jack, I keep working through Plan B, C, D.... in my head. No matter what the plan my pay will not be nere what i am giving up. This may be the stupidest financial decision i have ever made.
Had an iteresting talk with MIL. She tells me to not give up, that she senses it's not over on my W's part. Encouraging but still does not change what i need to do. Keep detaching, stop pursuing and focusing on myself and improvements i need to make. I am trying to "go dim" in that when i was going to our old social groups it was taking a huge emotional toll on me the next few days so i have backed away from these. Which is hard because that is where a large group of my friends are.
Can someone give a brief summary of Co-Dependence? I have seen this used in several posts just not sure the true meaning. I am thinking it is an "unhealthy" dependence on ones spouse, not being an individual. Is not this somewhat expected and normal in a marriage?
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs
