I might not be the best one to advise you but I did encounter a guy I dated who told me he had Herpes although infrequent outbreaks. I REALLY liked the guy, but, like you - did not want to do anything that would alter my future. It was in my early dating stages Post D so I was not really ready to get too intimate with him anyway. But I SO liked him.
He ended up dumping me callously for someone else and that really hurt me. Turns out he is pretty much a "Player". So in both aspects - I really feel that I dodged a bullet. He ended up marrying the new girl. Turns out he is a serial groom too - been married 4 times now!
I guess it matters how much your really like her and if you REALLY see a future with her. If not - I'd be running NOW. Before you get more invested in the R.
As I say - looking back - I really dodged a bullet. And I have no regrets.
