Just to point out the obvious: Maybe you should have taken her to the market she wanted to go to and none of this would have happened? (kidding)
Although it still "bothers" you, it bothers you less Tad. That's good. By now you know you'll get the blame for everything until you no longer do. It'll likely be long after you are no longer part of her life before that's going to stop. If it does.
But you know what? You know what to expect. You know she'll blame you for whatever she can. Ok. Is what it is. You know better and that's the important part. Just like it is with "other" people - what they think is not important but rather what you know to be true, is.
Were you perfect? Certainly not. But are you the monster that she makes you out to be? Also certainly not. Does it matter what she thinks?
Certainly not. It's her feelings and hers alone. Anyone that doesn't see that, doesn't care.
Be you. Be only you and don't let those accusations influence you ever again. They are not only false, but they will change over time with NC. You should have seen that by now and know it to be true.
This is her journey. You can't go, so let go the rest of the way. A little at a time, but get to stepping...
How's the job? How're the kids?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
