Hit a minor bump the other night, the night of the 4th. S18 was working 3-10pm and S15 was relaxing after a long week of basketball and baseball (practice, games, camp). He was just playing his video games. I stayed home till 3 and wanted to get out, so I went to visit a friend. S15 said he was comfortable and didn't need anything.
Around 8pm STBX drove by, coming from his friends house up the street. He stopped and decided to take S15 to dinner. He texted me to tell me and I said "OK" and no longer felt obligated to go home soon, since nobody was there. I stayed at friends house.
He brought S15 back at 9:30 and by 10pm my phone was blowing up with texts, "when are you coming home, S15 doesn't even know where you are" and then "I am worried about him, I am coming to get him and keep him overnight". This was at 10:15 and he is almost 16. I was literally 15 minutes away.
Before I could respond, he called me and was angry. He was also drunk. I convinced him to back down and hung up.
The next morning I emailed him to tell him how inappropriate his behavior was and I would not tolerate it. In the sober light, I think he realized and seems like he did some real thinking.
By last night at the baseball game he was calm and joking. He pulled me aside and said "I agree that I should not be sleeping there every other weekend, and will stop. It is not good for the kids and not good for you either" He will now be taking them more often and just letting them sleep at home. It is a win/win
