Well the scheduling conference wnet quite well. Apparently STBXW's L is a dingy as my L said she was. STBXW's L came unprepared and needed more time to talk with STBXW regarding the issues. After the conference we all had a pow wow regarding the Primary Residential for educational purposes and agreed that as long as school was in my current town (to which she claims she is moving to next year) we will share primary residential. My L came up with the idea so I am going with it.
Apparently their is some 2 page draft that STBXW's L is supposed to write up regarding finances, but "since [she] hates those things" my L is going to do them. I was basically given the choice of my L does them or I have to have a hearing, which is a little more expensive.
It sounds like I will be divorced in 2 weeks as everything is in order now. I still don't like the idea, but I don't know is I can wait for something that I don't believe will ever change. I am seeing my entire relationship with STBXW and although I still remember all the good times, I see many of her individual/personality issues that I don't know if she will ever face.
As for myself I know that I have grown a little, and still have a long way to go. I think the true healing will begin in the near future, but it will be a very long process.
M:35 W:33 M: 5 yrs. Daughter: 2 yr .7/11/10 D Final: 8/7/12