Starsky - Not sure that I agree that a D is just a business/legal transaction. For me, the emotional impacts of D are going to far outweigh the financial impacts.
You misunderstand what I'm saying, Navy. I'm not saying a divorce isn't going to be an emotional event. I'm saying you would be wise not to let emotions guide your decision-making during the process.
Protect yourself, protect your kids, protect your finances, and be as emotional as you want about it. But don't try to placate your wife in the process, thinking it will score you some sort of "points." That's a recipe for long-term disaster.
