Mach1, Getting it slowly. Don't touch the hot stove! I did not consider the Facebook thing snooping. We both do the FB games and she sends game requests and vies versa and when she posts something it shows up on my cover just as when I post it shows up on hers.
As far as her post goes I am guessing it was more directed at her family, letting them know that her group of friends is more her family than they are. I did feel bad after reading it, mostly because I use to be the one she counted on to make her smile and now I have been replaced.
Maybe it would be better to simply not go on facebook. It's just been one of the few things that we are still a bit connected on. Hanging onto threads of what once was and hoping for what could be...
Very sad!! Little less oil and multiple cans for STFU.
For me....Snooping can be different things.
Let me ask you this....
Do you look at your Facebook, and deliberately search through and read her posts ? Hoping for an inside shot to be that special person in her life ?
If you do, then it can be considered snooping. But that is just me.
Point is....YOU are the one inflicting that pain onto yourself. You can't blame her for feeling what she feels, and you can't hold that against her. Is it true ? Maybe not, although it is HER truth right now.
It may not always be her truth, just for now ? It is....
IF it hurts you ??
Then don't do it....
Which one were you missing ?
The heart ?
Brain ?
Courage ?
I don't think any of them, although you could be the Scarecrow at times...
: )
Stop and think for a while, on whether or not your words and actions are bringing you closer to your goals, or driving you away from them before you speak or act.
SIAS is also correct on the expectations....
As long as YOU can smile through contact, and not do any further damage, then contact is fine...
It is all about your tolerance of pain.
For now, that contact seems to be more painful , than helpful...
