This is not looking good! (Long post...)

[labug]

mab, you can move on at anytime. When you're done, you're done. But moving on won't get you magically to a pain-free place. The only way through this is through it and it's often painful.

About the look of pity in friends' eyes when you tell them what she said. Don't tell them what she said unless you're looking for that reaction from them. They have no need to know what goes on in your personal life.

I'm just really scared that I'll never fill the wife size hole which appeared in my life.

This is interesting wording. Are you more afraid of your wife being gone or of you being alone? Both are valid and being alone is difficult after being in a R for several years.

Either way, you need to create a bright, shiny new world for you.