GridLocked

[MrD]

"You people don't know what it's like to live with someone who makes me feel like I'm nesting in a thorn bush."

REally? I think EVERYONE here knows what that's like. You like to think you're different or that your situation is unique, etc. But the fact is that it's much more common than you think.

IMHO you didn't mess up. You were with a woman who validated you and you stopped before you both did something you'd regret. BUT the most important lesson you've learned is that you are worth something. Even if your W has destroyed your ego, you do have self-worth. Now try doing that without a woman controlling you.

The OW was right about you letting your W lead you. In fact, you let the OW lead you around last night as well. How can YOU be someone who takes the lead?

MrBond,
Great post!
I know OW was validating me, and honestly I was really intrested in what & why her sitch came to an end as she noted to me that I was the same as her H. Not spending enough time emotionaly and the thought process that happened because of that. Still though her story I understand was her side of the three truth's and she stated that she told her H she was unhappy before deciding to leave.
Which pisses me off why I didn't get that from my marriage. Communication-communication-communication
Now, I know the five love languages, it doesn't help right now.