Hi ad, sorry to find you here. one thing, in my state, wa, they call it spousal support, not alimony. It is arbitrary, no formula, longer m. you can maybe expect half the years you are m. but, this is a big one, if h. dies, its gone, if you remarry its gone. my lawyer made a suggestion to me that that amount of money be part of property settlement. in order to quickly settle, my x agreed to it and took out a loan so i would get that money up front. just an idea. i know this part totally [censored]. it got to the point with us that agree on stuff or you go to another horrible level of really paying the lawyers. I finally just said ok. i am going to have to go back to work, i've been "retired" for 6 years. I'm 58 and the thought of that right now just makes me tired!
I will run out of money at 60 something, except for soc. sec. which is 850 a month.
also look into that. If i wait to collect soc, sec.till 66 I get that 850, because it's off of his. If i take at 62, it's mine which is way lower in benefits. I'm not sure if i have all numbers right, can't stand to look at all that stuff right now. good websites on it. Just look out for yourself. be educated. It's like a minefield. don't be rushed. My stupid x wanted me to decide within a week of bomb if i wanted to keep the house!! I told him i couldn't even put a sentence together. he backed off and said take my time. AZZ
