Where do I go from here?

[Hopeful84]

You guys would be so proud of me!

I just drafted a separation agreement for my husband and I. Basically I asked him to cover the mortgage payment (which the Army covers anyway) and I will pay for the rest of the house expenses, while I take temporary residence and he lives with the OW. I also told him I would forward his mail to her house, lol. I asked for a visitation schedule to be set up for him to come see the dogs three times a week, but no more than an hour at a time, and he has to come alone.

I used lawdepot.com, to make the separation agreement legit.

I also researched mediation, which it looks like we can do a half day session with a mediator for $375, but to be honest, we don't have very many assets or debts, it should be a simple division and once agreed upon we can file papers at the court house, 61 days later as long as no contesting occurs, which I already decided to do irreconcilbe differences, then we go before a judge and he grants us or denies us a divorce.

I think I will leave the area. I mean, I have a good job here, with potential of becoming a manager of the place I work one day, but its all I have here. I have no friends, only him, and this whole damn city is now tainted with their crap.

I literally think I would only take my clothes and bus back home or to live with a friend while I start a new life over, from scratch. I don't know what I would do about the house. I think if I temporarily live here, then once we do the divorce, I would sign the house over to him, or atleast ask for half of the profit when he sells it down the road.

I already know he will try to call me tomorrow at work, which my boss hates, so I already plan to turn off both of my phones as soon as I get to work tomorrow so he will leave me alone. Well this won't stop him from coming to my work, but I don't think he would make a scene.

So I grew some balls, finally...

On a side note, any plans for the weekend guys? I have a routine going where I clean the house most weekends, I need to get my oil changed, and take care of my dogs vet visit as well as start looking for the documentation I would need to start the filing process. The neighborhood pool is open, which I pay for with 2 HOA fees, so I plan on using that. I am also super excited about how I ordered Jillian Michaels body revolution, so I can start focusing on that too.

I ordered a book called "Getting Past The Affair: A Program to help you Cope, Heal and Move On together or apart" Don't know if anyone has read it, but seems fitting.

Thanks for always being there guys, I know my story is probably way bizzare, but it means a lot.

I am not seeking out a divorce, but I do think right now, while he is obsessed with her, it is not wrong of me to ask for a break or separation. It was a long hard process to come to this conclusion, because I do love my husband. But he does take me for granted, doesn't think I will ever go anywhere, but I felt like I really had no option, unless I filed for divorce, but I am still not ready for that.



Becca