She is not telling you anything that any of us haven't heard. Realize that this is typical. Take some comfort in that and rise above.
From everything you've listed, you're doing great. Continue on with those things.
Accuray's advice is one of the best. I would read his posts over and over if I were you until it sinks in.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
