This is not looking good! (Long post...)

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You are allowing fear to be your guide. Fear is usually worse than reality.

It seems that you recognize that you are afraid of utilizing the great advice that has been given to you because of the way it will affect the relationship with your W. It is paralyzing you.

It is time for you to get into the game and begin to take action. Until you drop the rope and take control of your life, it will most likely feel like an insurmountable obstacle.

My children did play a big role in my reconciliation, however they are not the reason for it. My W living the consequences of her choices, in addition to me working on myself and becoming attractive made the bigger differences.