TM, I think your lawyer is right. It may be time to address why you aren't pulling out the stops. Maybe you already have, but your L sees this stuff all the time.
A good guiding principal is to look out for the D1's best interest and realize that just because you do something now, doesn't mean you won't be able to change it later if the situation dictates it.
Keep your D protected first and foremost. The rest will get worked out.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
