Thread #7 - What goes down, might come up.

[Navyguy]

Hey everyone.

It's been a heck of a week. We, along with most of the DC/Virginia area lost power Friday night. Ours didn't come back up until Monday. I was home with W the entire time, and we actually got along pretty well through it. We spent a lot of time sitting outside on the deck together and going places with the kids to keep cool.

On top of that, S4 caught Hand Foot and Mouth disease. On Saturday he had a fever in the 105-106 range, so I took him to the ER. We had given him tylenol, and of course, by the time we got there, he was down to 99 and the triage nurse was looking at me like I was crazy. Oh well, better safe than sorry.

Power came back on around dinner time on Monday. Since then, W has gone back into her shell...not talking to me, sitting outside FB'ing and smoking for 3-4 hours a day, and walking around in the house with her headphones in. She's so much fun to be around.

I started my new IC last week. The initial session was good. I explained the story with W in 2 hours, and then we set some goals for my IC. My #1 goal: come to grips with the fact that my M is over. #2 goal: start the process to move on from this M in the way that is best for my kids and I.

IC gave me a couple books on D to read - one for me that talks about the emotional and legal issues, and one for how to handle things with the kids. I've finished a few chapters of both books. They are both good and I think they will serve me well.

We also discussed the possibility of W and I living together like this for the next 7-8 years (until I can retire from the Navy) as W has proposed. We pretty quickly came to the conclusion that that's not going to work for anyone. I really think W is planning on that...and I don't even know if she's looking for an "escape" anymore. A couple times in the past week, she has mentioned some long-term plans that made it sound like we'll keep doing this for years to come.

It's looking more and more like I'm going to be the one to file here, probably sometime in the next couple months. That'll give W a year to finish her degree and get on her feet...seems fair to me....she tells me she's been unhappy for over 6 years now, but hasn't done much about it.