I once did a search on the internet for "Great Marriage Tips". Many of the websites that came up more or less all said the same thing. In great marriages SEX is almost never and issue. They have GREAT, FREQUENT sex. Great marriages have spouses that have learned to keep the passion alive. There are three parts to love in marriage, they are Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment. PASSION MEANS INTENSE SEX BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE THAT MUTUALLY WANT THE SEX TO HAPPEN. I think that LD/ND spouses have no driving force in them to find passion. To them, intimacy and commitment are enough. What drive HD spouses is PASSION. Passion is what makes our lives fulfilled, and can only be achieved by SOMEONE else making it happen. This is why it is almost impossible for HD spouses to make themselves completely happy, as we by ourselves can not make passion happen. IT TAKES TWO to make passion.
What is the solution? Just about all the experts I have been reading make suggestions. They all pretty much say the same thing:
#1) The HD spouse must be willing to accept a FAR less passionate life then they really want. #2) The LD spouse MUST regain some of their passion.
If these things don't happen, then the choice is up to the HD spouse. They must either be willing to accept a life with little passion, or get divorced.
Can a marriage survive without passion, SURE! Can it be a good marriage, NO! The only way a passionless marriage can be any good is when BOTH spouses are LD. I have yet to read a single expert that says something different from this.
