How many licks does it take...?

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More on my change of direction:

Went to the gym today with my friend. His W and my W were also there doing some dance jam type class. S10 and his buddy (my friends son) were in the kids club while we worked out. After the class was done my W and her friend stopped by the treadmill to shoot the breeze a little and W says she is going out to the gym pool with S10. I said I'd be down in a bit.

So we spent an hour or so sitting next to each other by the pool while the boys swam. Conversation was superficial, nothing deep. W asked me about our pool at home. I had decided that I would no longer maintain the pool and it has since turned green with algae. W would like me to show her how to maintain the pool since she would like to use it. I told her I'd see about a time convenient for us both and I would show her how to maintain the pool.

In the past, I'd have continued maintaining the pool if for no other reason than to be visible and present at the house. Now I don't care anymore about that.

This afternoon/evening family friends invited me/us over for BBQ and drinks. I arrived first, W and S10 showed up later. Had a nice enough time. It felt odd for me. It's kind of like my W and I are just acquaintances. No emotional connection felt at all. I'm not sure what to make of that. It is what it is I suppose.

Anyway, S14 was at a friends house and called his mother to see if she could pick him up at 11:30 pm. W told him that was too late, that she would pick him up no later than 10pm. After she hung up she said "of course if you wanted to pick him up at 11:30, you could." No thanks, I replied.

In the past I would most likely have jumped at the chance to pick him up to show my W what a nice accommodating guy I was. No more!