gabbysmom23, I'm so sorry about your sitch!! That must have been horrible for you. I suspect it would have been just as horrible, maybe moreso, if you were 12, and probably just as bad if you were 30. I give your dad credit because I'm sure it must have been hard for him to stay even that long. Actually, I'm sorry for your mom, too. I'm sure it wasn't a good life for her either.
All I can say is that I believe what I'm doing for S, staying until he's off on his own, is the best thing for him. I'm sure that's open for debate from many camps, but living in the middle of this one, I think it's best.
Originally Posted By: gabbysmoms23
But what DO you enjoy/like about him? Anything?/
If I didn't answer, perhaps I was still trying to think of something. Sorry, I wasn't meaning to ignore you. Sometimes these threads start getting complicated and fast.
And I'm afraid I'm still not having much luck coming up with something. It's not that I hate everything about everything he does, it just doesn't touch me. I'm indifferent more than anything. He has no hobbies, like painting or woodworking, so it's not like I can admire/enjoy his work. I hear he has a good golf swing and plays a good softball game, but those aren't interests of mine. He and I share the same faith, but it's not something we've ever been able to discuss together. There are many things I enjoy doing, but given the choice between doing it with him and someone else, I would readily choose someone else. When we first got M'd, we would do things together, but it was basically me doing his and his kid's things (swim meets, ball games, boating, etc.) I did their things because I thought it's what you did as a couple. I thought he would do my things with me, too. He didn't. He'd give it 2 minutes and say it wasn't for him and leave.
I would say he is always ready to do something fun. He is very social and can fit in almost anywhere. I realize I might appreciate that more if I didn't have it. It's just that when we go someplace, we generally go our separate ways so it's not like I really benefit from it anyway.
I'll keep working on it. I would love to hear what any of you enjoy doing with your S's..... Maybe it would give me some ideas.
